A Day Without a Woman
“Women are the real architects of society.” – Harriet Beecher Stowe
In celebration of International Women’s Day, Hothousers took some time to reflect on the important role of feminism in modern society and to honor the hard-working women that make the world go round at our agency. In keeping with the theme of the day, we treated our ladies to Jeni’s Ice Cream, a female-owned gourmet ice creamery.
We then honored feminist visionaries by sharing their most inspirational quotes, and Senior Account Manager Rachel McClurg left us feeling empowered with a spoken word display. Rachel read the following passage from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s “We Should All Be Feminists”:
“Feminist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.”
Some people ask: “Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?” Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general – but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human. For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. It is only fair that the solution to the problem acknowledge that.
Some men feel threatened by the idea of feminism. This comes, I think, from the insecurity triggered by how boys are brought up, how their sense of self-worth is diminished if they are not “naturally” in charge as men.
We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity is a hard, small cage, and we put boys inside this cage.
We teach boys to be afraid of fear, of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be —a hard man.
But by far the worst thing we do to males — by making them feel they have to be hard — is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.
And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males.
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.
We teach girls shame. ’Close your legs. Cover yourself.’ We make them feel as though being born female they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think.”
Thank you to all of our inspirational, hard-working, wonderful lady Hothousers, and to women all over—we couldn’t do it without you! Happy International Women’s Day!